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The only thing leftover is cake!

September 5, 2016 //  by dirtyelbows//  Leave a Comment

You know how people always ask on your birthday if you feel any different? Normally I’d say nope, no changes. But this year, when nobody asked me, I actually DO feel different!

or a Margarita... My friends took me out for a Mexican fiesta!
…or a Margarita!

On August 30th, I woke up with sunshine radiating from my eyes and ears. I was ecstatic about turning 28. You could have thrown all of life’s lemons my way, and I’d have juiced them and served you ice cold lemonade…

Twenty-eight marks a new beginning for me. It’s obviously the age at which I’ll begin my travels, but it’s also the age that I become a “leftover woman.” The number 28 is like the Scarlet Letter for single Chinese women. If you’re over 27 and not married or not in a relationship headed towards marriage, you’re crumbs, mushy peaches, scraps tossed to the dogs — leftover. It’s an official, government-sponsored term that puts enough pressure on women that they’ll do ridiculous things like rent boyfriends. But not me! The only thing leftover on my plate is cake,  because I had THREE in honor of my big day (and I’m going to snack on that all week long) !

See?! Life threw me lemons, and my friend, Li, caught them to bake me a decadent lemon-raspberry cake. I love my friends 🙂

This is not the lemon-raspberry cake. My aunt got me this cake from Chinatown. Neither she nor the cake decorators knew how to spell my name, but it's the effort that counts :)
This is not the lemon-raspberry cake. My aunt got me this cake from Chinatown. Neither she nor the cake decorators knew how to spell my name, but it’s the effort that counts 🙂

I had many opportunities to rebel at authority, but I feared hurting and disappointing others, so I stuck to the rules. It took some time to realize that these rules were mere guidelines, and nobody was bound to them unless you chose to be. I was so happy to turn 28 because I’d designated this age as the time when I let go of all the expectations and social norms that have dictated my life thus far, so I can just be me.

That’s why on August 30th, I woke up feeling like…me! And a little like Julie Andrews.

This is not The Sound of Music. This is my life! (Photos shot in Nepal – a striking resemblance, no?)

 

 

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